The spoon theory came to us thanks to Christine Miserandino, and you can read more about her on her page at butyoudontlooksick.com I...

I don’t know about you, but lockdown was one of the weirdest parts of my life so far. I am one of the lucky ones who survived it fairly...

10 Year Difference Another 10 years have passed, and it is time to renew my driving licence and add a new photo. Well, what a revelation that was! When looking at the two photos side by side, my first reaction was to laugh at the difference between them. I first noticed all the physical changes, like my hair, the number of visible piercings, and my facial expressions. What I saw was a younger, more scared version of me, which is so far from who I am now. This led me to a mome

Throughout my life I felt a little out of sync with most people around me. I was often told I am different from most, a little bit weird at times and questioned about my responses, which many saw as wrong. I struggled to know how to act, what to say, be ok with the way I think. I found relationships and friendships difficult and painful, and ended up in several abusive relationships as I did not see the truth of situations and gave people too much credit, even though part of

The day I discovered I am autistic and have ADHD was quite literally life-changing! Throughout my life, I have had all kinds of struggles and pain. I have been in more abusive relationships, including friendships, than I care to admit to. I had always put it down to my rough start in life, in feeling not good enough, to being wrong somehow but not really knowing why. There were so many relevant reasons as to why I was the way I was that my skills in masking and fitting in wer

When choosing a therapist, I often advise people to contact, and possibly meet, 2 or 3 different therapists before deciding who to work with. A crucial part of successful, healthy counselling is the relationship that develops between the client and the therapist, and you can only really get a feel of whether or not they are the right person for you by meeting them. By having an initial session, you are able to reflect on how you felt with the counsellor, if you felt safe beli

Sometimes we feel trapped, or as if we do not have choices. We have pressures from life, people, and responsibilities - and these can all cloud our ability to see that we have choices and that decisions are ours to make. We do things automatically, or as a reflex, and can repeat the same things we have done many times before. We can all make a change by making a new choice, accepting this truth, and deciding to do it a new way. This can be a small decision, such as reacting